I have noticed an increasing uptick in the number of career counseling inquiries from spouses of potential career counseling clients. I don’t think this is due to the increasing number of concerned spouses but rather from greater awareness that unhappy careers lead to unhappy personal lives and, of course, unhappy marriages.
I remember one client vividly since she came to my office in tears and blurted out that her job had made her so anxious, and angry that she become a terrible mother and wife. That line that double clicked because it reconciled my past with my present.
When I was in my mid-twenties, a sage mentor told me that I wouldn’t be as good of a father or husband if I stayed in my unhappy large Washington, DC law firm. Thank goodness I listened.
I know that my happiness from my work puts me in a good mood and that when I come from work I’m cheerful and present for my wife and three children. I hope that you can have the same good fortune.